I've been busy, so I apologize to my readers for a delay in posting. There have been a few changes to our short term plans - all for the good of our family.
As you know - my wife is a nurse and she got a great job here in Jackson, MS. Our plan was for her to work weekends (Friday/Sat night) part time to supplement our income until the baby comes (we are due for our 2nd daughter in late Nov). Working weekend nights has it's advantages - higher pay, more relaxed work atmosphere, and no need for childcare because Charlotte gets to be with me. I won't say how much Hilary makes - because it is a lot. It is about 2-3 times more than a regular nurse because she is in the float pool (a nurse that goes to any unit in the hospital as needed).
I say all that above because our original plan was for her to work every weekend. But several things have come up.
Hilary's pregnancy just hasn't been easy. She struggles with various things that just make it difficult to work - even if just twice a week. Plus, we have had several large life changes in the past few months:
- Graduation
- 2 new jobs
- New pregnancy
- Move to new town
- New home
- New church
These are stressful and tiresome events - so we've decided to focus on the family over the next few months. For Hilary's physical, emotional, and spiritual health we've decided to cut back for the time being. This has been difficult for me personally because one of my greatest "needs" is to pay off my student loans. But, as scripture says, we are to love our wives as Christ loves the church; denying ourselves (our needs) and looking to the needs of our wife first. As important as it is to pay off the debt - it is even more important to look after the wellbeing of my family and ensure that it is secure and stable emotionally and physically, not just financially. If we extend the loan payments by several years - yet our marriage and family are strong - then what's wrong with that? Spiritual leadership in a family is not easy - but it is essential. Financial issues are probably the #1 cause of marital and family problems. I am committed to keeping priorities straight - and never putting my debt before the needs of my family.
Hilary's job is very flexible - so they've allowed her to be on the schedule for as little as 2 time a month (once every other week). This keeps her employed and in good standing so that after maternity leave is over she will have a job to go back too. Also, like I said, she gets paid well so even those 2 nights really help out.
That being said, we do have some significant challenges ahead of us.
- Our mobile home back in Auburn hasn't sold yet. The mortgage payment is due again for $350/month. I also have to pay lot rent ($185/month), power ($144/month), insurance ($25/month), Lawn care ($25/month). Oh and remember that stupid tax I wrote about earlier - the timeshare? Well - the loan for that is also about to be due again -$425/month - which I am planning to pay off once the mobile home sells. So - because this place hasn't sold yet - we have about $1200/month in expenses tied up.
- Hilary was on scholarship at her old hospital - they paid for her school and she had to commit to a certain time at the hospital (about 2.5 years). She almost worked it all off but because she was sick with this pregnancy and we moved she owes about $1560 back to that hospital. This is payable over the next 24 months.
- My student loans are in their grace period right now (some for 6 months - some for 9). The grace periods start to expire in January and March of 2011 and payments will have to be made. The minimum payments will add to about $1450/month. I can get some of the federal loan payments lower probably and have an extension on my grace period if the lenders will allow due to financial hardship. It depends on if they will consider not selling my mobile home financial hardship.
So, in a nutshell if we can sell the mobile home - life will be easier and less stressful. Once Hilary's maternity leave ends (around March 1) we will be able to have her income again which is flexible. She can work as little or as much as she wants. We will have 2 children though so it won't be easy.
One small thing we are going to do to help is cancel some charity sponsorship that we've been doing. For the past 2-3 years, we've sponsored children through both World Vision and Compassion International. We have been so glad to do it - and I'd hate to back out - but the financial security of my own family may be in jeopardy. This is only $68/month but that will help in the long run. We will still continue to tithe to our church though, something that is very important to us.
We also are continually trying to tackle our eating budget habits. The more we can squeeze out of this the better. I don't think we'll have a choice but to finally go to the cash envelope system for our food budget.
All that said, my job is going very well. We are looking forward to the arrival of our 2nd daughter in November. We have found a great church and are getting involved and meeting people there.
Please, please continue to pray for us - the biggest issue being the sale of our mobile home. Since it is a student only park, sales in the off season are very unlikely. Worst case scenario has us holding it until spring semester, maybe even next summer. I can only lower the price so much.
Thanks for reading:) Until next time,
Thomas